Zen Master and Buddhist Monk, Thich Nhat Hahn stated, “The purpose of a vacation is to have time to rest. But many of us, even when we go on vacation, don’t know how to rest. We may even come back tired than before,”. Take a moment to reflect on your past or upcoming vacations. Do you really go on vacation? Are you really present in your period of rest and reflection or are you simply down-scaling the level or intensity of your work while on vacation? As a solo-entrepreneur, small business owner, or leader within a firm, it may be difficult to remove yourself from work and “go” on vacation. Here are a few simple reasons why you need a vacation – a real, restful, and rejuvenating vacation.
1. Workaholic Reality Check. You’re dedicated to what you do. Perhaps, over dedicated. You wake up, start your day, and do what needs to get done and a significant amount of other things. You wear a lot of operational hats. You are timed, systematic, and extremely productive. Such dedication and behavior have contributed to your successes. You’re drained. When you “unplug” for the day, you’re not “unplugged”. You check your emails, respond to texts, answer phone calls or something else that one would compartmentalize into the “work” category. You don’t stop. Your office hours are stated; however, everyone knows you work long past them or question the very fact of those hours because you’re constantly on the go. You may not want to categorize yourself as a “workaholic”. Denial is a sign. Justifications are excuses for such behavior. One vacation isn’t going to stop a “workaholic” behavior, but it most certainly give you the overdue reality check, which perhaps, you’re in fact a “workaholic”. Tim Skew, CEO of Corporate Rain International and INC. Magazine Contributor, cited Helanie Scott, CEO of Align4Profit comments about the neurology behind workaholism, and how research shows that the behaviors create deeply rooted neural pathways in our brain. The more one feeds the habit of workaholism, the more powerful the neural pathways. The more power the neural pathways that support, accept, and carry out such habits of workaholism, the harder it will be to break that powerful habit. Where do you stand on a level of one to five, five being a complete workaholic? How does this impact your life? Does it? If you were asked to go on vacation today for a week or let us say three days if seven sounds like too much time away, would you? Why not? Your responses to these questions may indicate more about you on that spectrum.
2. Get Back to Doing things for You. Not to say that making a living isn’t doing something for you, but missing out on making a life is also important. Think about if you gave yourself and your loved ones equal attention that you provide to your business. Would your life be the same? Are you already doing that? If so, then you may be reading this article to pass on to a friend or family member that you feel may need that “break” before he or she “breaks”. Getting back to doing things for you is important. In fact, doing things for your enjoyment should be implemented daily. However, if it is hard to make the time, it is even more of an indicator that it is needed. You can start with a vacation. A vacation for you and perhaps, depending on your personal situation, your loved ones as well. Take the time to think about what it is that you would like to do. How would it make you feel to do it? What is stopping you
from booking that time for yourself? Is it worth the sacrifice? Imagine what you consider to be the perfect “me time”. Is it on a beach? Feeling the warm sand, hearing the waves, birds, and seeing people smile…oh wait, that is you, smiling. Yes. You’re smiling and running toward the next wave. Waves are one of your favorite things. Growing up in Ohio, and hitting the waterpark as a kid, if people couldn’t find you, you were in the wave pool putting yourself right in front of the biggest man-made waves. Now, your budget is better, and you’re putting yourself on a beach and facing the real, Poseidon-made waves. Hearing your niece laugh, “Aunt Katie, you’re awesome. Why do you want to be hit by the waves?” You respond, “because nature is amazing, and it is so much fun to play in the waves. I love dropping like a sack of potatoes and getting back up to get hit again with the powerful water. It makes me feel good.” The next thing you know, you’re back to you. You feel connected to yourself, others, and the Earth. You feel blessed beyond and have that reality check about how important it is to do things for you and those that you love. Now, I ask you, what would you want to do to get back to doing things for you? How would you incorporate that in your vacation? What is stopping you?
3. Sharper Focus of Your Work-Life Balance Lenses. Small steps, big changes. A simple vacation provides a level of work-life balance enlightenment. The awareness can help you to sit back and truly see what matters and make a life around that, rather than a life around whatever is going on. A vacation can help you to see what you want in life and for yourself. It can be that game-changer that helps you to re-connect, or perhaps for some, connect for the
very first time, with your true, happy, and peaceful self. In that moment of clarity, you can be the creator of your life from this point forward. You’ve always been the creator of your life and your behaviors. Including the workaholic behaviors. Your actions, attitudes, and behaviors are the facilitators of your life. A vacation can be the wake-up call to become more aligned with the work-life balance that you want. It can help you to become more present, accepting, and happy. Yes. Happy. It is one of my favorite feelings. Can you imagine building your life around being happy? Making the schedule, outcomes, and desires around the feelings that you want to have in your life, versus being reactive to situations or circumstances. Your vacation can help you sharpen your work-life balance lenses so that when you come back from vacation, you create an environment in which supports your desires. If what you desire is to work all the time, then that it is totally fine, as that is what you desire. However, if what you desire is work-life balance with the ability to have a solid income and investments, set up your life for that and make it happen. Sometimes, we all need that reality check that can occur any moment, not just vacation although vacation can signal it; life is more than simply working. We are meant to live life, and the level to which we live it is completely contingent upon us. Your focus aids you in identifying that level and the systems needed to make it happen.
In all, let your next vacation be a vacation. Provide yourself with the opportunity to engage fully in your vacation. To make memories with yourself and others. Learn to let go, or perhaps, re-learn, especially if you “used” to do all of those things. Somewhere between the new business, life, and, etc. you forgot how to live truly. Maybe, you’re still on that discovery of what does it mean to live truly? I am breathing. Therefore I am alive but are you living or are you too busy making a living for the unsatisfied and draining life that you are living? Not to be too blunt, but I am sure we can all relate to that last statement more than once in our lives.
All my love.
by Katie Doseck, PhD MBA
Chief Visionary and Strategic Ace Up Your Sleeve | Viral Solutions LLC
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